This is one I work with my clients a lot on. Because we’re sensitive and feel our feelings deeply, our systems can get easily flooded so we work on breathing deeply, petting our dogs/cats, and having a self-care plan for after conflict like taking a hot bath or a walk.
Because we grew up in a culture that doesn’t appreciate our unique gifts many of us learned to suck it up. This often meant putting on armor during conflict so that we come off as harsh and unyielding. It’s one area people get confused about a lot around high sensitivity. Just because someone is highly sensitive doesn’t mean they’re warm and sweet all the time. If we were always warm and sweet our culture would beat us up pretty badly. So some of us learn to compensate by being great warriors in battle!
But if we can soothe ourselves from the get-go – I mean like from the moment we wake up – then when we encounter conflict we’re aren’t as easily provoked. And if we can stay conscious through conflict and soothe ourselves, we become even better communicators.
What does this look like for you? Maybe this means going on a news diet for a while? Perhaps waking up and slowing down first thing, instead of revving up? How about the idea of taking on a practice, like a gratitude journal, meditation, or a morning walk?
If you’d like to learn more, call me!
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