“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” –Rumi

Because true intimacy exposes us to our deepest fears around hurt and abandonment, we protect ourselves against it. But by guarding against perceived or real loss, we lose out on any meaningful opportunity for connection. Being in a committed relationship this way is like being at the most delicious buffet but only eating a small salad. We’re starved for nourishment and pleasure when it’s right in front of us! Part of us knows this while another part pushes the plate away. So in a way Rumi’s right. The way to a more connected, committed relationship requires seeing how you might be preventing yourself from accessing that. Relationship counseling opens up the possibilities for you to enjoy more of the buffet!

Taking that first step in coming to counseling can be hard. It’s an admission your relationship needs help. And let’s face it everyone’s relationships needs help. My encouragement is to call me and come in. Let’s see how it feels for you to be in the room and talk about what’s going on. Then you can decide if therapy is right for you.

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