I read in your About Me section that you’re a feminist. Does that mean you’ll be really hard on me if I’m male, or if my partner is male?

I can understand the concern. I believe couples don’t come to counseling because only one of you, male or female, is at fault. Both of you worked at creating the particular relationship dynamics you currently experience. And both of you need to work on creating a different one. That means both of you taking responsibility.