I’m ready to start counseling but my partner isn’t. They’re afraid you might judge them or tell them one of us should leave our relationship. Would you do that?

My approach is a very non-judgmental one. I take time in the beginning to understand how and why each of you are in relationship in the way that you are. This means a lot of times when we argue with each other it’s because we’re trying to protect ourselves. Well, you’re allowed to protect yourself! Perhaps over time, however, we can find ways in which you can protect yourself and not also isolate your partner.